The vows have been written and wedding gown returned. Everything returns to normalcy and you’re starting to get a little worried about what’s going to happen after the honeymoon ends. How much will a couple change after tying the knot? Or will there be any changes at all?
We may be no marriage experts, but some of us have been dating for so long we’re basically married, so that counts for something, right? Whether you’re newly weds or couples in a long relationship, below are 25 behaviours you’re likely to be more than familiar with.
1. Total Lack of Privacy
You guys have actually made a couple of big decisions whilst in the shower and know the passwords to each other’s social media accounts. Privacy? Please.
2. Dealing with Money Woes
Having a joint account may make you feel like a grown up but after all that budgeting, spending can be a real headache. Also, you find yourself cutting on your splurging habits and consulting bae on almost every purchase you make. Want a new pair of Air Max? Better make sure you have enough for groceries first.
3. The Role Reversal
Now that you’re married, wifey’s gonna show who’s the real boss. Just kidding. Hand over all your finances and you’ll be fine. Trust us.
4. Discovering New Habits
Whether it is leaving dishes in the sink or making savoury French Toast instead of sweet, you’ll learn something new about your partner now that you’re living together. Sometimes you’ll even feel like you’re married to a stranger. This leads us to…
5. Stories About People Murdered By Their Spouses Are Starting To Feel Real
Some days you don’t understand why people would murder their spouse but some days you can totally understand why. Well as long as you don’t act on it, it’s probably normal. Probably.
6. Accepting Their Weird Habits
Not only do you accept them, you find their quirkiness adorable. And you love them just a little more for being themselves.
7. Experiencing The First Fight…
You fear for your entire marriage, especially after your first major argument. “What if he/she decides to get a divorce? What about our future?” Though these thoughts may be normal (and kind of sweet), it’s the making up that is important.
8. … Before Realising How Common Bickering Is
You may find yourselves arguing a lot and most of the fights include debating over stuff like toh-mah-toh VS toe-mey-to. Good news is, these arguments are usually harmless. Usually.
9. Hiding Objects From Your Spouse
“Honey, I might have bought another bike.” If that fails to set her off, we’re pretty sure she’s got a pair of Louboutin hiding somewhere.
10. Getting Annoyed By The In-Laws
Sure, you may love and respect them (to a certain degree) but sometimes, it’s hard to agree with everything they say or do. To compromise or not to compromise, that is always the question.
11. Mumsy or Wifey?
“If your mum and I fall into the ocean at the same time, who would you rescue first?” Ahh yes, the famous question. Well, we say best to just send them both for swimming lessons. There. Problem solved. But assuming you’re living with the wife and she’s your partner in crime, we’re pretty sure mumsy will understand if you take her stand every now and then.
12. Making A Big Deal of Your First Anniversary
You guys may have been through a couple of milestones but the first anniversary of marriage is definitely different from any other dating anniversaries. So take the chance to celebrate and treat each other to a nice romantic night out.
13. Still Having No Idea What You Should Have For Dinner
Also known as the source of 70% of your arguments, we’re sorry to say that we’ve yet to find a solution for this one. Read our articles for dinner ideas maybe?
14. Slowing Down Your Activities On Social Media
Your single friends give up trying to get you out of the house whilst your married friends are busy with their own lives. The photos on Instagram may look great, but hey, snuggling under the blankets with Netflix can be fun too.
15. Getting Comfortable
Sure, you still put in the effort to dress up for special occasions or date nights but on most days, comfort is key. Besides, the wife donning only a sports t-shirt can be sexy too.
16. The Making of Dad Bods
Gym? Ain’t nobody has time pho that! Since you no longer need to impress the wife, working out can be a harder commitment than marriage. On the bright side, science has proven that it’s love that’s making you put on the weight.
17. Making The Other Happy
From romantic dinners to planning a surprise vacation, you’d still go the extra mile (in your sweat pants) to make your partner smile. Whoever said getting married means slacking off in the relationship has a lot to learn.
18. Netflix and Chill Becomes An Integral Part of the Relationship
Catching up on your favourite TV series with a hot cuppa sounds like a perfect night. You can also take the opportunity to find out more about your partner by talking about politics and social issues. Informal chatting sessions like these can be surprisingly fulfilling.
18. Perfecting the Answers to Questions About Marriage
The default question everyone asks at gatherings and occasions will be “how’s marriage?”. If you’re lucky, they’ll stop at that question but some won’t stop until you give them some juicy gossip. So let your creativity run or you know, always have a set of standard answers in your pockets.
19. Rolling Your Eyes Whenever You Hear “when are you having kids?”
The question almost every couple hates, you’ll answer them with a smile on your face but roll your eyes as soon as their backs are turned
20. Wanting A Pet
You’re both not sure if you’re ready for a baby so maybe a pet first? If you can’t even find the time of day to walk your dog, you may then want to delay parenthood for just a little while longer.
21. Getting Into Baby Talks
Doesn’t really matter if you guys are ready, but parenthood will be something you and your spouse will be talking about. A lot. You’ll find yourselves reading parenting sites and looking at potential baby names instead of catching up on the latest online gossip.
22. Discovering How Everyone Is A Baby Expert
From conceiving to raising a child, everyone has some sort of baby advice for you. This includes those from your long lost single cousin whom you’ve not met since you were twelve. Telling them off isn’t exactly an option and besides, who knows if something useful really comes up.
24. Wondering If You Made The Right Decision
Somedays it gets tough. How could he do that and why she gotta be so rude? Doesn’t she know you’re human too?
Seriously, though, it’s alright to feel overwhelmed by a series of doubts but hey, talk it out with your partner and you’ll be fine.
25. Wondering Why You Wondered In the First Place
Yes, married life may not be easy but it’s not never entirely bad! How awesome is it to have someone always there for you, to share your joys and sorrows?
We’re not sure how many of you guys can relate but relationships are never easy but as long as you never take your other half for granted, you’re already halfway to a long-lasting relationship.
How many of the above can you relate to? Drop us a comment and tell us. And don’t forget to share this with your spouse too!
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